Comments on: Concealment and the Single Blogger http://quichemoraine.com/2009/06/concealment-and-the-single-blogger/ We don't need no stinking subtitle Wed, 08 Jun 2011 05:44:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Mike Haubrich http://quichemoraine.com/2009/06/concealment-and-the-single-blogger/#comment-2970 Mike Haubrich Thu, 18 Jun 2009 04:00:43 +0000 http://quichemoraine.com/?p=1230#comment-2970 Hey, this is turning into a love fest, I should bewail my misfortune more often. :) Actually, your comments are always nice to get, Stacy. Hey, this is turning into a love fest, I should bewail my misfortune more often. :) Actually, your comments are always nice to get, Stacy.

]]> By: Stacy http://quichemoraine.com/2009/06/concealment-and-the-single-blogger/#comment-2969 Stacy Thu, 18 Jun 2009 03:28:35 +0000 http://quichemoraine.com/?p=1230#comment-2969 Well, all I can say Mike is "Thank you" for providing me with a great blog to visit from time to time. :-) I think if you take a step back - you'll find that you have accomplished a little more than you think. You've certainly helped educate me and counsel me (whether you knew it or not) so add teacher and therapist to your list. Stacy (I'm on vacation - you should try it) :-) Well, all I can say Mike is “Thank you” for providing me with a great blog to visit from time to time. :-)

I think if you take a step back – you’ll find that you have accomplished a little more than you think. You’ve certainly helped educate me and counsel me (whether you knew it or not) so add teacher and therapist to your list.

Stacy
(I’m on vacation – you should try it) :-)

]]> By: Jason Thibeault http://quichemoraine.com/2009/06/concealment-and-the-single-blogger/#comment-2948 Jason Thibeault Wed, 17 Jun 2009 18:00:26 +0000 http://quichemoraine.com/?p=1230#comment-2948 I think you overstate my abilities! I have reciprocated nonetheless, sir. I think you overstate my abilities! I have reciprocated nonetheless, sir.

]]> By: Mike Haubrich http://quichemoraine.com/2009/06/concealment-and-the-single-blogger/#comment-2928 Mike Haubrich Wed, 17 Jun 2009 04:41:13 +0000 http://quichemoraine.com/?p=1230#comment-2928 I was thinking about that, too, but then I was wondering what sort of support group I could find that deals with the plethora of issues I am now dealing with. I made amends to someone today, and he told me that he may have never caught the issue on his own and would never have been the wiser. He was very happy that I talked to him and explained what I had done and why. We'll work it out and get it fixed, together. Now, if I can figure out the rest of the issues and get them resolved. Thanks. I was thinking about that, too, but then I was wondering what sort of support group I could find that deals with the plethora of issues I am now dealing with. I made amends to someone today, and he told me that he may have never caught the issue on his own and would never have been the wiser. He was very happy that I talked to him and explained what I had done and why. We’ll work it out and get it fixed, together.

Now, if I can figure out the rest of the issues and get them resolved.

Thanks.

]]> By: a daughter's mother http://quichemoraine.com/2009/06/concealment-and-the-single-blogger/#comment-2924 a daughter's mother Wed, 17 Jun 2009 02:14:51 +0000 http://quichemoraine.com/?p=1230#comment-2924 My personality bent is trying to "fix" something. The world presents as a series of mysteries or problems, all with solutions to find and apply. In reading what you are not looking for, I find myself saying, "Yeah, but...." No, I'm not offering to be your confidante, for two reasons. My time is already way to taken up fixing things for myself and others, and I need to practice saying "no" - right after I finish up with these responsibilities, and a few more that pop up along the way, and, heck, with breathing, probably. And second, I was there years ago, needing a confidante, needing the right kind of friends, needing a safe place to vent and cry and learn and grow. I landed, with lots of nudges from folks wiser than I, in a great support group. Nevermind what it was for. It fit me and my issues. It's rule of confidentiality made it a safe place, and all the others who passed through gave of themselves, as I learned eventually to do, in a way that helped us all grow, rather than diminish. I gained a very firm respect for the process, and would be a much less sane person now had I missed that. It took years, where I was looking for a quick fix, and the ultimate rewards were nothing like I expected going in. I simply didn't have the experience or imagination to know what I needed. But the friends I gained there are still my friends, the kind who can still listen, or ask me to listen, with a depth that I've never found anywhere else. I learned there how to be a friend as well as find a friend. If you are really lucky, you might find an experience like that. It's not exactly what you think you are looking for right now. This isn't advice to go find a support group. This is just sharing a possibility that may not have occurred to you before. And, really, it has very little to do with blogging - unless perhaps it's what you are asking to be the result of blogging. If it is, then I'd have a question for you. My personality bent is trying to “fix” something. The world presents as a series of mysteries or problems, all with solutions to find and apply. In reading what you are not looking for, I find myself saying, “Yeah, but….”
No, I’m not offering to be your confidante, for two reasons. My time is already way to taken up fixing things for myself and others, and I need to practice saying “no” – right after I finish up with these responsibilities, and a few more that pop up along the way, and, heck, with breathing, probably.
And second, I was there years ago, needing a confidante, needing the right kind of friends, needing a safe place to vent and cry and learn and grow. I landed, with lots of nudges from folks wiser than I, in a great support group. Nevermind what it was for. It fit me and my issues. It’s rule of confidentiality made it a safe place, and all the others who passed through gave of themselves, as I learned eventually to do, in a way that helped us all grow, rather than diminish. I gained a very firm respect for the process, and would be a much less sane person now had I missed that. It took years, where I was looking for a quick fix, and the ultimate rewards were nothing like I expected going in. I simply didn’t have the experience or imagination to know what I needed. But the friends I gained there are still my friends, the kind who can still listen, or ask me to listen, with a depth that I’ve never found anywhere else. I learned there how to be a friend as well as find a friend.
If you are really lucky, you might find an experience like that. It’s not exactly what you think you are looking for right now. This isn’t advice to go find a support group. This is just sharing a possibility that may not have occurred to you before. And, really, it has very little to do with blogging – unless perhaps it’s what you are asking to be the result of blogging. If it is, then I’d have a question for you.

]]> By: Mike Haubrich http://quichemoraine.com/2009/06/concealment-and-the-single-blogger/#comment-2913 Mike Haubrich Tue, 16 Jun 2009 19:01:13 +0000 http://quichemoraine.com/?p=1230#comment-2913 And you have the advantage of being cogent, for the large part. (I added Lousy Canuck to the Tuibguy.com blogroll.) And you have the advantage of being cogent, for the large part. (I added Lousy Canuck to the Tuibguy.com blogroll.)

]]> By: Jason Thibeault http://quichemoraine.com/2009/06/concealment-and-the-single-blogger/#comment-2903 Jason Thibeault Tue, 16 Jun 2009 12:06:11 +0000 http://quichemoraine.com/?p=1230#comment-2903 Let me throw in a "me too". The "trying to make it a daily habit" bit especially earned my empathy. After having given up a career in English and falling headfirst into the technology world, I thought my education would have been completely wasted, until I figured out that I enjoy blogging. Wealth and fame will probably never come for me, but the writing experience itself is cathartic, so it's sort of okay that I'm not exactly widely read. The frustration you feel at your works not getting the attention you feel they deserve -- well, you're not alone, for sure. Let me throw in a “me too”. The “trying to make it a daily habit” bit especially earned my empathy. After having given up a career in English and falling headfirst into the technology world, I thought my education would have been completely wasted, until I figured out that I enjoy blogging. Wealth and fame will probably never come for me, but the writing experience itself is cathartic, so it’s sort of okay that I’m not exactly widely read. The frustration you feel at your works not getting the attention you feel they deserve — well, you’re not alone, for sure.

]]> By: Mike Haubrich http://quichemoraine.com/2009/06/concealment-and-the-single-blogger/#comment-2889 Mike Haubrich Tue, 16 Jun 2009 01:31:08 +0000 http://quichemoraine.com/?p=1230#comment-2889 I have this feeling that there are many people out there struggling this way, but like Carol, just don't know how to write about it. It's cathartic for me, too. One of the nice things about Quiche Moraine is that we don't follow a strict topical structure and so I can share this kind of thing occasionally. Thanks to all of you. I have this feeling that there are many people out there struggling this way, but like Carol, just don’t know how to write about it. It’s cathartic for me, too. One of the nice things about Quiche Moraine is that we don’t follow a strict topical structure and so I can share this kind of thing occasionally. Thanks to all of you.

]]> By: khan http://quichemoraine.com/2009/06/concealment-and-the-single-blogger/#comment-2880 khan Mon, 15 Jun 2009 22:02:46 +0000 http://quichemoraine.com/?p=1230#comment-2880 There is much pain/angst/loneliness/... out there; always has been. Now we know about it. Good luck. There is much pain/angst/loneliness/… out there; always has been. Now we know about it. Good luck.

]]> By: Ronja A-M http://quichemoraine.com/2009/06/concealment-and-the-single-blogger/#comment-2876 Ronja A-M Mon, 15 Jun 2009 19:48:31 +0000 http://quichemoraine.com/?p=1230#comment-2876 I am definitely breathing a bit more easily every day because you blog on Quiche Moraine. Thank you for that and please keep on blogging! I am definitely breathing a bit more easily every day because you blog on Quiche Moraine.

Thank you for that and please keep on blogging!

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